Hey all, sorry I haven’t updated in a while, but I have heaps to share so I’ll get it all up tomorrow :) hope everyone is doing okay!
Stay safe, be mindful!
So, last week we learnt about the “what” skills of Mindfulness, which I’m going to summarise quickly before getting onto our most recent Group.
The three WHAT skills (“what to do during mindfulness”) are:
- Observe - Just NOTICE the experience. Don’t hold on to anything, don’t force anything, just be. “Smell the roses”.
- Describe - put words to what you are feeling, acknowledge without getting sucked in. Label thoughts, feelings, urges as “just a thought, urge or feeling” then let it pass.
- Participate - become one with the experience, lose yourself in it. “Be in the moment” so you can fully experience each thing.
Now.. we get onto the HOW skills (“how to be mindful”):
- Non-Judgmentally - See but DON’T evaluate. Focus in what IS, and not whether it’s good/bad, terrible/wonderful, should/shouldn’t be. If you find yourself judging, don’t judge your judging!
- One-Mindfully - Do one thing at a time. When doing something, devote your whole attention to that thing. This doesn’t mean you can’t do things in succession, but try not to split your attention if you can help it.
- Effectively - Focus on what WORKS. Stay away from fair/unfair, right/wrong etc. Just focus on your OBJECTIVES (however small) and be as skillful as you can in order to reach them. In the business world, this is sometimes called “Playing the Game”.
One last thing that stuck in my head: "Emotions love themselves!" If you’re angry, a part of your mind wants you to stay angry (this is your emotional mind, NOT wise mind). If you’re depressed, part of you wants to stay depressed. It sounds insane but I’m beginning to realise how true it is!
One of the hardest thing to do may be to ignore these thoughts (and they ARE just thoughts), but forcefully trying to remove them may just make it worse. The best thing to do is ACCEPT or ACKNOWLEDGE, then let it slip away as your mind wanders, or you do a mindfulness exercise.